Dear Abby: Couple struggles with elderly cat’s declining health

Dear Abby: Couple struggles with elderly cat’s declining health

Expensive ABBY: My wife and I have been alongside one another 39 several years, and we generally get along really well. We’ve usually experienced puppies and cats, and we at this time have two of each. Even though my wife loves all animals, I’m a puppy individual. I do not dislike cats, but I don’t genuinely treatment for them. The cats and I are inclined to ignore just about every other.

We have a person who’s 20 decades aged. Although he does not show up to be in any soreness, I suspect he has dementia. He has weak balance. He stumbles into walls and cabinets and has fallen down the stairs a variety of situations. Lately, he has been peeing in my den and garage. That, I just cannot disregard.

I think it’s time to set the cat down. My spouse is calling me chilly and heartless. I assume when I’ve lost my intellect enough to pee in my den or garage, I hope somebody will be compassionate more than enough to assistance me go. I’m commencing to hate that cat. — FAVORS Canine IN EL PASO

Pricey FAVORS Canine: That weak animal should really be examined by a veterinarian to decide why he is stumbling and falling, and no matter whether the issue can be remedied. (The aged dog of a pal of mine retained working into matters and in the long run experienced prosperous cataract medical procedures.) As to the cat’s inappropriate option of a location to relieve himself, the challenge may possibly be as very simple as a curable bladder infection — unless he has picked up on the reality that you would like to see him useless and is executing it to get back at you.

Pricey Abby is prepared by Abigail Van Buren, also recognised as Jeanne Phillips.

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Pricey ABBY: My boyfriend, “Tom,” and I just used the weekend with his older brother, “George.” George put in most of the weekend mocking and mimicking me, and he even designed entertaining of my chronic well being ailment. Tom saved telling me not to be so delicate and to ignore George’s “sense of humor.” Afterward, I told Tom I would not continue to be silent in the potential, and I wished he had said a little something like, “That’s ample, George,” on my behalf.

Tom insists it isn’t his put. He thinks I really should acknowledge George as he is “since we all have our faults.” Although I want to preserve my marriage with Tom, I need to have to limit my exposure to George, whose actions I regard as abusive. Does this seem to be acceptable? — Exhausted OF THE TEASING

Pricey Drained: Affordable, sure. Whether or not it is possible might be questionable. I concur that George’s habits was abusive. It’s a disgrace Tom was worried to stand up to his more mature brother, but because he would not intervene, you would have been within your rights to stand up for you, inform him his ridicule was not humorous and depart.

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Expensive ABBY: I am 48 and married to a widower in his early 60s. Not extensive back we moved into a 55-plus neighborhood. The problem is, every single time we meet up with somebody, they inquire my spouse why he robbed the cradle. I’m unwell of listening to it. My spouse is a heat, caring, loving guy, who just laughs and states, “Yep!” How can I rebut those opinions when they arrive, for the reason that my husband does not look to be capable? He needs everybody to like him, so he by no means will make waves. — NOT FROM THE CRADLE

Pricey NOT FROM THE CRADLE: The feedback are not intended as an assault on your relationship. The next time anyone suggests it, pipe up and say, “We ended up Each previous more than enough to know what we preferred!”

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Pricey Abby is created by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Get in touch with Pricey Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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